What do you do when someone blatantly disrespects you in front of other people?
Simple question. Don’t try to read more into it. Just tell me what you would do if this was happening to you on a regular basis and others are starting to notice.
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mrc1471 - Well, I would like to say that I would take that person aside and have a little chat with them, but in real life this has happened to me and I just went off on them in front of everyone back. And surprisingly that person said she didn’t even realize she was doing it.
FiberFairysHaven - I will calmly tell them (preferably one -on-one)that I don´t accept what they are doing ,and that I think it is very rude to do that and if they continue, just plainly tell that person you don´t intend to stand here and recieve this. Turn around and walk, and be proud. You are better than them…..they are just people with to big feet in too small shoes. Hugs
Kristine - That person would get checked – whether it would be in a calm tactful way or a loud scene causing way would depend on the situation and yet I always go back to what my mom once told me – you teach people how to treat you.
That said, I have been in that situation in the workplace (with disrespect from bosses) and it got so bad that no amount of conversation could remedy the situation. I simply had to find a place where I was valued. In my personal life I have had a few experiences that led me to be just as bold as the person being disrespectful for I thought, if they have the nerve to belittle me this way than they deserve to be checked – whether it embarrasses them or not.
adrienne - Let them know quick, fast and in a hurry that I don’t appreciate it and make sure they are aware of it. If it keeps up, put they ass on blast. SIMPLE. They will stop it. But that is just ME!
jeanne - i am embarassed to admit it, but I would probably just “take it” for an extremely long period of time. beyond what is resonable. then I would either snap (and probably not in a way that would benefit anyone)or use really bad sarcasim with that person in an attempt to have them “see the err of their ways”.
i would also (again embarassing to admit) try to get people “on my side” and see if they saw what was happening. If I did I would start talking behind the “evil do-er”‘s back in an effort to make myself feel better..(pity party)
Bad stuff, but the actions of a mush-ball under duress!
good luck….I am not expecting my words to be helpful, just honest.
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stacey fike - if it was someone i was in a personal relationship with i would address them when we were alone.
if it were a professional relationship i would consult a superior for direction.
and in the meantime, i would probably get so pissed i would have to leave the room to cry for a bit b/c that’s what i do when i get really mad.
jinglbells - You might, when you are calm(maybe on a day where they have yet to disrespect you and feelings are good)take them aside and ask if there is anything going on with them. You know, are they having a tough time with somethin? and if the opportunity arises you could then let them know how YOU feel they have been treating you lately.(use the I feel words so as not to accuse and put on the defensive cuz even if they are doing it and you are right NO ONE listens well when on the defense)