Monthly Archives: August 2008

Do you have a dichotomy in your life?

“Never permit a dichotomy to rule your life, a dichotomy in which you hate what you do so you can have pleasure in your spare time. Look for a situation in which your work will give you as much happiness as your spare time.” – Edward L. Bernays

I looked up the word dichotomy and it means a division into two especially mutually exclusive or contradictory groups or entities. When I read this quote, I knew immediately what area of my life this applied to. There have been times I felt I settled for something, believing the end result was worth the pain and agony to get there. Usually, the misery was not worth it. We owe it to ourselves to live our most authentic lives and be true to who we really are. I am not allowing a dichotomy to rule my life, are you?

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I’m Living a Fearless Life

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I started this week off posing  a question to my Higher Power about a particular situation I would like to change. I focused on being open so I could receive my answer. I made sure my energy was closer to positive than negative. I must tell you, I have been experiencing an overflowing sense of happiness and abundance. I left work yesterday laughing out loud. I could not hold it in. I did not care who saw me or who heard me.

I have seen how fear has paralyzed my friends and family into misery. Settling for working jobs that are literally sucking the life out of them all for the almighty dollar. When I suggest they leave, they rattle off a multitude of excuses justifying their current state of misery. Unfortunately, fear of not knowing, of failing, and even the fear of succeeding stops so many people from ever following their bliss. We would rather be in a crap situation than take a leap of faith.

My mantra lately is, I am taking a leap on faith, believing the net is there even though I can not see it.

That is some serious faith. It’s that good faith, unwavering faith. I have no idea what the future holds for me, yet, I have a sense it is wonderful. I wake up each morning excited to see what God has in store for me. I am trying to live fearlessly. It is not always easy, but I am doing it. And, you know what? I kind of like it!

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Photography Tips for Aspiring Photographers

I posted this over at the Art Slam and thought I should share it here, too.

I get quite a few emails from aspiring photographers asking how they can improve their photographs. Having the best equipment does not instantly improve your photography. If anything, having a camera with all the bells and whistles has scared many a beginner into using the automatic mode the majority of the time. With a clear idea of what you want your pictures to look like, I am sure the following tips will have you well on your way to being a much improved photographer.
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Composition Counts
Take the time to make sure everything in your photo is balanced. You do this by making sure the horizon line is level, using the rule of thirds , cropping out distracting elements and playing with patterns and perspective. The rule of thirds states that an image can be divided into nine equal parts by two equally-spaced horizontal lines and two equally-spaced vertical lines. Where the lines intersect is where you want to align the main subject of your photo. It is believed by following this rule, you create interest and tension in your photo…but rules are meant to be broken, so you don’t have to follow this all the time.

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Fill the Frame
Filling the frame basically means get closer. If you think you are close enough for your shot, move in a few steps and shoot it again…then move in a couple of more steps and shoot again. I bet you will end up liking the second or third image a lot better because the focus is on your subject instead of the stuff around your subject. Seriously, this will dramatically increase the attractiveness and intimacy of your photographs.

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Be Choosy
Be selective with what you choose to include in your photograph. Traditionally trained as an artist, I was taught to take it all in and include as much detail as possible so the viewer of my drawings would see what I saw. With photography, I find it to be the opposite. Decide what the focus is and remove everything from the frame that detracts from the focus of your photo.

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Focus!
I admit it, I love soft, buttery bokeh. Bokeh is a Japanese term for the subjective aesthetic quality of out-of-focus areas of a photographic image. If you want to really put the focus on your subject, play with your aperture and blur the background out. Your ssubject can not help but pop off the page. The smaller your f-stop number, the blurrier your background will be.

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The Light…the LIGHT!
If you learn how to take advantage of lighting situations, you will end up with some interesting and dramatic photos. When shooting people outside, I like to position them so they are backlit. I will have my subject turn until around and tell me when they are not squinting. Nine times out of ten, the sun is at their backs. This effect creates a beautiful glow. You get the best effects when the sun is rising and setting. I do not believe there are bad lighting conditions. There are challenging ones, which lend themselves to fun experiments. So, play and see what you get.

K.I.S.S. Your Camera Settings
If you primarily shoot in automatic mode, it is time to get a little risky and switch to one of the semi-automatic mode. I primarily shoot in Aperture Priority mode (that whole bokeh thing). It is my favorite. Since I shoot a lot more portraits than stationary objects, I don’t have a lot of time to play around with my settings, but I do like having control over how my photos look. Keeping your settings simple allows you to focus on creating a great picture while controlling how the final image looks.

Just Do It!
If you really want to improve your photography, the best advice I can give is this…experiment, play and have fun. The great thing about digital photography is you can instantly see what your photo looks like. You can shoot as many pictures as you want without worry about processing rolls of film. Have a sense of adventure and don’t be afraid to try something new. While rules are cool, they are meant to be broken. Master a skill, then find a way to do the opposite. Some of my best photos have been happy accidents.
I hope these tips help you improve and grow as a photographer. Now go forth and shoot. Capture beautiful people and sunsets. See things in a different way and be a photographic rebel!

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There’s Hope

India.Arie is one of my favorite singers. I have been listening to her music a lot lately. So many of her words have been resonating with me; helping me connect with my Light. As I was driving this morning, There’s Hope started playing and I listened to the words like I always do. Then, something happened, I listened with my soul. These are the words that got me:

Back when I had a little
I thought that I needed a lot
A little was over rated,
but a lot was a little too complicated
You see-Zero didn’t satisfy me
A million didn’t make me happy
That’s when I learned a lesson
That it’s all about your perception
Hey-are you a pauper or a superstar
So you act, so you feel, so you are
It ain’t about the size of your car
It’s about the size of the faith in your heart

-India.Arie

You wanna talk about having a moment. I had a big one. Back when I first started blogging, my first blog was called Believe Big. I chose that title because I believe if you are going to believe in something, you might as well do it as big as you can. One of the things that undermines our believing with our whole hearts is that we are so busy comparing ourselves to others. Then, I read this post at Zen Habits this morning. I am going to post my favorite section from the post, but you should go to Zen Habits and fill up on some serious food for the soul. I can not say enough about what a great site it is.

Breaking the Habit of Comparing Yourself With Others
So how do you break this cycle of comparing yourself with others? Here are some tips I’ve found useful:

  • Awareness. Most often we do these social comparisons without realizing we’re doing it. It’s a natural act, I suppose, and as a result it’s something that is done without consciousness. So the solution is to become conscious — bring these thoughts to the forefront of your consciousness by being on the lookout for them. If you focus on these thoughts for a few days, it gets much easier with practice, and soon it’ll be hard not to notice.
  • Stop yourself. Once you realize you’re doing these comparisons, give yourself a pause. Don’t berate yourself or feel bad — just acknowledge the thought, and gently change focus.
  • Count your blessings. A better focus is on what you do have, on what you are already blessed with. Count what you have, not what you don’t. Think about how lucky you are to have what you have, to have the people in your life who care about you, to be alive at all.
  • Focus on your strengths. Instead of looking at your weaknesses, ask yourself what your strengths are. Celebrate them! Be proud of them. Don’t brag, but feel good about them and work on using them to your best advantage.
  • Be OK with imperfection. No one is perfect — intellectually, we all know that, but emotionally we seem to feel bad when we don’t reach perfection. You aren’t perfect and you never will be. I certainly am not, and I’ve learned to be OK with that. Sure, keep trying to improve, but don’t think you’ll ever be the “perfect person”. If you look at it in a different way, that imperfection is what makes you who you are, you already are perfect.
  • Don’t knock others down. Sometimes we try to criticize others just to make ourselves look or feel better. Taking someone else down for your benefit is destructive. It forms an enemy when you could be forming a friend. In the end, that hurts you as well. Instead, try to support others in their success — that will lead to more success on your part.
  • Focus on the journey. Don’t focus on how you rank in comparison to others — life is not a competition. It’s a journey. We are all on a journey, to find something, to become something, to learn, to create. That journey has nothing to do with how well other people are doing, or what they have. It has everything to do with what we want to do, and where we want to go. That’s all you need to worry about.
  • Learn to love enough. If you always want what others have, you will never have enough. You will always want more. That’s an endless cycle, and it will never lead to happiness. No matter how many clothes you buy, no matter how many houses you own (seven, in the case of one famous candidate), no matter how many fancy cars you acquire … you’ll never have enough. Instead, learn to realize that what you have is already enough. If you have shelter over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back, and people who love you, you are blessed. You have enough. Anything you have over and above that — and let’s admit that all of us reading this blog have more than that — is more than enough. Be good with that, and you’ll find contentment.

And, because I am having a love overload moment, go read Jen Lemen’s post at Supersisters.

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Maybe Your Dreams Are Trying to Tell You Something

“Dreams are astoundingly important. They keep nagging you because you’re supposed to fulfill them. When you sense you’re special, you’re not neurotic or grandiose. Something inside you is calling to you and you have to listen. When you love to do something, that means you have a gift for it…And when you’re gifted at something, you have to do it.” – Barbara Sher

I think my dreams are trying to tell me something. In fact, I know they are. It could be the only time your subconscious can get you to listen is in a dream when you can’t really move around and you have to listen. I am finding it harder and harder to follow the status quo and do what is “expected” of me. If you are miserable, is it really worth it to do what is expected? I don’t believe God put us on the Earth to be miserable. We have to use our gifts. Sometimes that means taking a risk or taking a leap of faith. I am ready to leap.

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