Shake it Off!

I attended a women’s conference a couple of weeks ago called Beauty for Ashes. The impact the speakers and attendees had on me can not be described in words. One of the speakers talked about prophesy, which means to declare or foretell by or as if by divine inspiration. Before you can do that, you have to shake yourself off. Shake the mess off of you and renegotiate the experiences you are going through.

When we experience a trauma, our brains create an image of the experience, not the actual incident. Every time you replay the situation, you recreate it all over again in your mind. The brain does not remember, you keep recreating it when you allow yourself to remember. This is why it is so important to keep a short accounting of wrongs done to you.

Believe me, I am by no means an expert at keeping a short accounting of wrongs done, but I am learning. I am learning to not torture myself by remember it and talking about it and holding damn grudges. I find it easier to let go when I think about how the other person has no concern for how I feel or what I am going through. They are going on with their lives while I am sitting around recreating the incident in my mind. Well, I don’t know about you, but that kind of torture is no fun.

At some point, you are going to have to shake the mess off. Put the trauma in a positive state and figure out what you can do with it. Your mess becomes your message. When you renegotiate what you have been through and how you are going to learn from it, you empower yourself. I think it is high time we do more to encourage ourselves instead of recreating the wrongs done to us. No one ever said life was going to be fair or that you would not experience trials. It is how you deal with those trials that speaks to your character. When a trauma comes up on you, how do you handle it? Do you fight, take flight or freeze?